hyperreflection means to think about our problems incessantly. what we need then is a flight from the difficult situation, or rather a respite from it. viktor frankl called it dereflection. there is no use in pounding our heads all the time about the troubles that befall us. an escape is needed, an airing out of the suffocating inner chambers.
i watched a music show on tv tonight, and all the while i did not once think about my current circumstances, which are challenging. as soon as the show was over, however, i bumped into all the difficulties again. it felt like bumping into a brick wall. so how come that dereflection didn't help me? because what i did was not dereflection.
what i did was a more or less empty escapism. while keeping attention away from my problems, i didn't do anything to prepare myself to get back to the real life. escapism has its merits, it lets us breathe easier for a while, but it has no intrinsic value. what would, then, be dereflection, as opposed to escapism?
when we engage in an activity that we might call dereflection, apart from being distracted, we spend time dealing with things that have an authentic value, that charge us with positive energy and make us stronger to face life's difficulties. that could be a powerful movie, or a quality book, or spending time with well-meaning people. or reading psychology. watching a beautiful landscape. making food for other people. washing the car. e-mailing distant friends. just any activity that has a deep practical, artistic or scientific value, which works on us subliminally. not soaps, not most of what we can watch on tv, not video games. they just narcotize us.